I still do...

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Today marks a significant moment in our marriage, 10 years. 10 years ago 2 young kids, who frankly had little idea what they were getting into; promised to love, honor and cherish each other for the rest of their lives. We had lots of folks give us advice about marriage before hand. Some discussed the importance of keeping God central in our marriage others talked to us about stealing the covers and fights over squeezing the toothpaste tube, but I don't know that anyone got in our faces real about what the next 10 years would be like. They would be fun; the last year of college as newly weds,  playing with our sweet babies, those ridiculous moments that only come from having spent a decade knowing what makes another person laugh. They would be joyful;  the celebrations with friends in weddings and births, the anticipation of each of our 5 pregnancies. They would be heartbreaking; the miscarriage of our first child, loss of grandparents, loss of trust situations. They would be hard; unemployment, depression,  struggles of faith. They would be victorious;  the births of healthy children, long anticipated job offers, dreams coming true, and even personal break throughs.

The truth is the bad has been significantly harder than I ever could have imagined. To open your heart up to someone so fully can sometimes have very hurtful moments. It can be so raw you don't know how you will ever pick up and keep going. On the flip side the good has been a million times more amazing than I ever imagined. To have someone who has seen you at your worst rejoice with you in even the most seemingly insignificant achievements.

The truth is over the last 10 years we have sometimes grown together and sometimes apart. It has not always been sunshine and roses. In fact the days we have lived through lately aren't all positive ones. But ultimately knowing what I know today about my husband, our life, our marriage; I would do it all over again. I never promised it would be glorious or magical, but I did promise to always choose love, even when it is hard. We have been blessed to reach this milestone and I look forward to the journey to many more.

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